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windyridge
Joined: 03 Oct 2010 Posts: 2732 Location: Up the garden from Henry
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Posted: Fri Mar 04, 11 11:04 am Post subject: |
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cheap-n-cheerful wrote: |
I'm new here so not able to comment on this thread, but it is my understanding that forums evolve, and just like real life people you come into contact with, some you love and some you dont.
I was a member of another forum for a long time, spent hours on it, and as I was a moderator I dipped into all the topics. Then things changed. Because I speak my mind and don't join fan clubs, dont cosy up to people, and don't do the huggy kissy thing, I suddenly didn't fit in. People mis understood my meanings and started to have a go at me, and it upset me because I couldn't understand why. I tried to state my case but nobody listened, so I gave up.
I have learnt from that experience. Learnt to not take forums too seriously. It takes a far stronger person to walk away when discussions start getting heated. From what I've seen here, there are some topics that I will not go into because I know I won't like what I read in them. For a nicer life I will ignore them. Squabbling is childish, and scoring points off each other is ridiculous. I think you should all say sorry and make up. |
Lovely post, well expressed CnC |
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Pilsbury
Joined: 13 Dec 2004 Posts: 5645 Location: East london/Essex
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Posted: Fri Mar 04, 11 11:05 am Post subject: |
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Brownbear wrote: |
Pilsbury wrote: |
not much fun to be had now |
Quite hard to engage in humour when anything at any time may be deemed personally insulting, given that there is no proper definition, just the vague suggestion that it has to do with being nice (presumably so that it can be interpreted as widely or narrowly as the person interpreting it wishes at the time).
However, has been pointed out before, if you want humour, banter etc, there are plenty more forums in the world. |
I know there are other forums, I like downsizer but from that reply especially the bit i highlighted that DS is no longr a place for fun, humour and banter, shame because that was one of its biggest plus
and thanks for taking my quote out of context |
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chez
Joined: 13 Aug 2006 Posts: 35935 Location: The Hive of the Uberbee, Quantock Hills, Somerset
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paul1963
Joined: 15 Nov 2010 Posts: 2161 Location: No longer active on the forum
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vegplot
Joined: 19 Apr 2007 Posts: 21301 Location: Bethesda, Gwynedd
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Mr O
Joined: 13 Feb 2005 Posts: 5512 Location: Nova Scotia, Canada
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Posted: Fri Mar 04, 11 12:54 pm Post subject: |
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Pilsbury wrote: |
cheap-n-cheerful wrote: |
I'm new here so not able to comment on this thread, but it is my understanding that forums evolve, and just like real life people you come into contact with, some you love and some you dont.
I was a member of another forum for a long time, spent hours on it, and as I was a moderator I dipped into all the topics. Then things changed. Because I speak my mind and don't join fan clubs, dont cosy up to people, and don't do the huggy kissy thing, I suddenly didn't fit in. People mis understood my meanings and started to have a go at me, and it upset me because I couldn't understand why. I tried to state my case but nobody listened, so I gave up.
I have learnt from that experience. Learnt to not take forums too seriously. It takes a far stronger person to walk away when discussions start getting heated. From what I've seen here, there are some topics that I will not go into because I know I won't like what I read in them. For a nicer life I will ignore them. Squabbling is childish, and scoring points off each other is ridiculous. I think you should all say sorry and make up. |
Nice post, thanks
possably up for the downsizer oscar for best use of emoticons as well |
I would say over use of emoticons, or is that an insult? |
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Jo S
Joined: 13 Jan 2009 Posts: 5174 Location: Somerset
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Posted: Fri Mar 04, 11 12:55 pm Post subject: |
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Through sheer force of will (and the ability to wield the biggest wooden spoon you've ever laid eyes on), my great grandmother brought me up to never argue with the chef
But Pilsbury has neatly summarised what I've been thinking.
Good old fashioned debates have become arguments - often bitter and personal, even just to read, let alone as a poster.
Banter has become caustic and humour is used as a weapon: "I'm being funny so you can't view it as insulting or offensive".
And, as this thread so beautifully illustrates, anyone who suggests we should "be nice" is mocked.
It seems, at times, as if there's something going behind the scenes, some undercurrent. I don't what, I may have been drinking too much coffee and stared into the 3am void one too many times, but there's a tension that I can't put my finger on. |
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paul1963
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