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Stacey

Joined: 18 Jul 2005
Posts: 8380
Location: Kernow

Posted: Mon Feb 28, 11 1:00 pm Post subject:

For example is 'your (sic) a very irritating person' acceptable?

Or (in the post immediately after calling me an 'ignoramus' ...

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its not an insult Jam, its an observation, sorry, but half her posts are pointless and put in a way as to put down other posters comments, very very rude in my opinion, and my gramps always said people who did that were ignorant

Is that acceptable?

Behemoth

Joined: 01 Dec 2004
Posts: 19023
Location: Leeds

Posted: Mon Feb 28, 11 1:27 pm Post subject:

cab wrote:

Rather like football, isn't it? Play the ball, not the player.

And definitely not the cat.

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cab

Joined: 01 Nov 2004
Posts: 32429

Posted: Mon Feb 28, 11 1:37 pm Post subject:

Behemoth wrote:

cab wrote:

Rather like football, isn't it? Play the ball, not the player.

And definitely to the cat.

Unless of course you're called Rooney, in which case elbowing someone in the face is considered only worthy of a pat on the back from the referee.

Stacey

Joined: 18 Jul 2005
Posts: 8380
Location: Kernow

Posted: Mon Feb 28, 11 1:39 pm Post subject:
Thought so. Cliques R Us

Hairyloon

Joined: 20 Nov 2008
Posts: 15433
Location: Today I are mostly being in Yorkshire.

Posted: Mon Feb 28, 11 1:55 pm Post subject:
Is it not a simple case of, if you find a post insults you, then say so. The poster then has an opportunity to apologise and revise their post or not. If they continue in their line, then there is no question that they are being deliberately insulting.

Stacey

Joined: 18 Jul 2005
Posts: 8380
Location: Kernow

Posted: Mon Feb 28, 11 1:58 pm Post subject:
I complained to the mods about this particular poster weeks ago. There's just vague, wafty comments like 'Please could everyone be nice'. Pointless. What's needed is for someone to say 'You - yes you there - stop being so bloody rude' That might work a bit better

chicken feed

Joined: 27 Aug 2009
Posts: 2677

Posted: Mon Feb 28, 11 2:14 pm Post subject:

in a strange way this reminds me of 2 mums in the playground years ago they would always be head to head until one day they got into a very nasty slanging match infront of parents and children, it was all cringe worth stuff. the head mistress put a stop to their going ons the next day they were both met at the gate and taken to a black board each on the top it had the words we are very sorry for our behaviour it will not happen again they had to stand there until all the blackboard was full of these words being made to do this soon colled them both down and never was a nasty word exchanged between them from then on.

Hairyloon

Joined: 20 Nov 2008
Posts: 15433
Location: Today I are mostly being in Yorkshire.

Posted: Mon Feb 28, 11 3:06 pm Post subject:

Stacey wrote:

I complained to the mods about this particular poster weeks ago.

Why keep it behind closed doors?
If you are insulted, then say so up front. Saves troubling the mods, who are generally enough trouble on their own.

Brownbear

Joined: 28 May 2007
Posts: 14929
Location: South West

Posted: Mon Feb 28, 11 3:25 pm Post subject:

Hairyloon wrote:

Stacey wrote:

I complained to the mods about this particular poster weeks ago.

Why keep it behind closed doors?
If you are insulted, then say so up front. Saves troubling the mods, who are generally enough trouble on their own.

I think that would be exactly the wrong thing to do. If you think someone's being rude and respond in kind, your rudeness will not only upset people reading it, it will give the other person the opportunity to claim that his or feelings have been hurt by your response. Sad to say some people really do that.

Far better to put it all in the hands of the moderators. I think they should add a 'report this post' button to make the process quicker and easier.

I'm sure the moderators will be entirely fair and impartial, and not take sides with their friends or against people who have disagreed with them in the past.

Bernie66

Joined: 14 Jan 2005
Posts: 13967
Location: Eastoft

Posted: Mon Feb 28, 11 5:00 pm Post subject:

Writing something down has two issues. Firstly, you can show no emotion other than the words themselves so tone or expression has to be guessed and secondly, unless edited they are there forever. I try to read back any posts written in haste to ensure that they convey my real meaning rather than me shooting from the lip in response to something that is obviously wrong because I disagree with it.

So, write what you want to get across rather than what's in your mind to say out loud.

You don't have to agree with everyone's ideas about everything to get on.

Marionb

Joined: 27 Aug 2006
Posts: 5267
Location: Mid-Wales

Posted: Mon Feb 28, 11 5:18 pm Post subject:

Brownbear wrote:

Far better to put it all in the hands of the moderators. I think they should add a 'report this post' button to make the process quicker and easier.

Thats a very good idea.

Stacey

Joined: 18 Jul 2005
Posts: 8380
Location: Kernow

Posted: Mon Feb 28, 11 5:35 pm Post subject:

Bernie66 wrote:

So, write what you want to get across rather than what's in your mind to say out loud.

You don't have to agree with everyone's ideas about everything to get on.

Good point but what if what you want to get across is that someone is an 'annoying ignoramus'?

alice

Joined: 18 Feb 2006
Posts: 2820

Posted: Mon Feb 28, 11 5:35 pm Post subject:

Brownbear wrote:

Far better to put it all in the hands of the moderators. I think they should add a 'report this post' button to make the process quicker and easier.

The mods had better give up their day jobs then

gz

Joined: 23 Jan 2009
Posts: 8978
Location: Ayrshire, Scotland

Posted: Mon Feb 28, 11 5:40 pm Post subject:

Stacey wrote:

Bernie66 wrote:

So, write what you want to get across rather than what's in your mind to say out loud.

You don't have to agree with everyone's ideas about everything to get on.

Good point but what if what you want to get across is that someone is an 'annoying ignoramus'?

You don't have to say anything, if they are it will show by itself.
It takes two to argue or get annoyed, and you don't have to do either

Stacey

Joined: 18 Jul 2005
Posts: 8380
Location: Kernow

Posted: Mon Feb 28, 11 5:41 pm Post subject:

gz wrote:

Stacey wrote:

Bernie66 wrote:

So, write what you want to get across rather than what's in your mind to say out loud.

You don't have to agree with everyone's ideas about everything to get on.

Good point but what if what you want to get across is that someone is an 'annoying ignoramus'?

You don't have to say anything, if they are it will show by itself.
It takes two to argue or get annoyed, and you don't have to do either

It doesn't take two to post insults. I've been remarkably restrained in the face of some pretty severe provocation IMO.

Last edited by Stacey on Mon Feb 28, 11 5:42 pm; edited 1 time in total

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